But for some people, falling asleep isn’t always easy while for others, it can take just seconds. I hope you’re not reading this message after midnight-and if you are, please stop reading and GO to BED.The night before starting a new school year or before starting a new job is when most people have a case of insomnia. It’s time to raise your standards-and stop settling for scraps of self-care at 1:34 am.īe a role model for the women and girls who are watching you-watching how you live, how you work, and learning from the example you set.ĭo you want your daughter to grow up and become a Revenge Night Owl, too?ĭo you want your son to assume that this is a normal and reasonable way for women to live? If you were a woman who is dedicated to her health-a woman who takes exquisite care of herself-what would your day look like? What would your evening feel like? – Decide that you are no longer the mom who “makes a quick run to Target at 9 pm” to get that one thing your teenager desperately needs for school tomorrow that they forget to mention until today. There is someone in your community who be DELIGHTED to have this flexible part-time gig and the extra cash that comes with it. You can pay $15 to $25 an hour-say, 5 to 10 hours a week for starters-and your entire lifestyle will be upgraded from C- to A+. – Find a local high school or college student, an intern, or a personal assistant, and hire them to clear 1,000 tasks off your to-do list. Love you and talk to you this weekend.” Phone: Off. Or text her and say, “Hey, just FYI-I’m turning my phone off for the rest of the evening so that I can do some yoga and unwind for the night. It’s been a long day and I need to get some rest.” I know you’re feeling anxious and I understand, but I’m not in the mood to talk about this right now.
If your mom loves to call you 13 times a day to anxiously discuss the latest Covid-19 news and prattle on for 60 minutes and it makes your brain hurt, you can say, “I love you, mom. This might require having a difficult conversation that you’ve been putting off for 17 years.
– Ask your spouse, partner, or housemates to chip in and help more.
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(Do you know how many college students don’t know how to boil an egg-or where to put a postage stamp on an envelope? Frightening.) You’re helping them build crucial life skills and setting them up for success later in life. – Teach your kids how to cook, clean, and help out. The question is, are you going to continue being a R.N.O.? This is an all too familiar pattern for so many of my clients.īeing a Revenge Night Owl might be a funny social media caption that inspires many nods and chuckles from exhausted moms on Instagram, but it’s not a healthy (or sustainable) way to live. “This is the ONLY time I have, so I am taking it-even if it means being sleep deprived.” You stay up way too late but it’s not joyful. You angrily seize whatever little scraps of time you’ve got, feeling irritated and resentful.
If you want any time for yourself-to stretch, unwind, meditate, journal, or (Heaven forbid) enjoy some recreation like Netflix or a fun book-you need to squeeze it all into the hours of 10 pm to 2 am. Then you spend your evening taking care of your family.Īnd then finally once all the homework is finished, the dishes are washed, the laundry is folded, the tantrums have been managed, and the emotional caregiving has been doled out, by then? It’s probably 9 pm or 10 pm or later. A client sent me a hilarious-and tragic-Internet meme about being a “Revenge Night Owl.”Īs a working mom, you spend your daylight hours serving your colleagues, clients, and customers.